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Monthly Drum Photo - Eight

This year is flying you guys! I think it feels even faster than Mo's first year. Or maybe not, maybe it's all just fast all the damn time. Yeah, that's probably it. So here we are, Drum is 8 months old, two thirds of the way to one year.

8 months outtake

8 months outtake


Mo | Drum

I've already started thinking about his first birthday party! Apparently Golden Birthdays are not a thing everywhere, but in our family we like to celebrate the day when you turn the age of the date you were born. So Mo's Golden Birthday will be when she turns 14 because she was born on January 14. But Drum was born November 1, so his Golden Birthday is his first birthday! I'm going to do a gold theme for his party. Not that I ever go all out for birthday parties, I'm just not good at that, but I do think it'll be fun to have some golden touches when we celebrate.

Anyway! That's four months away. Hopefully four loooong months. 

Drum has made some pretty big leaps this month. On the day he turned eight months, he figured out how to clap and he is so proud of his new trick. Probably because we are all so thrilled every time he does it! I remember thinking that it was the cutest thing that had ever happened when Mo started clapping, and now Drum's clapping is a dead tie for cutest. He claps on his own all the time, but also any time anyone says "clap clap clap" or even "yaaay!" He just loves to celebrate. He's also figuring out how to wave. He'll study my hand very intently, trying to learn, and I'll see his little hand start to move. Again, adorable.

Drum christmas pjs headband close up smile

He's rolling all over the place now. He learned to roll to his tummy a long time ago, but could never get back over. Now he rolls and scoots all over, especially when he's in his crib. He can get from seated to to his tummy (it was fun to watch him figure this one out over a couple days), he gets up on his hands and knees and rocks back and forth, and sometimes pushes up on his toes. He's not pulling up yet, but he's pretty strong on his feet if you prop him against something. He also zooms all over in his little walker. Mo and I like to call him the crazy driver! Drum has amazing posture. Have I mentioned that? He has a very long torso, and when he sits, he's usually rod straight. It's impressive!

Drum sit up straight back posture

Drum is eating a lot of solid foods and so far likes everything he's tried. Mike makes him pureed fruits and veggies, and he also gets little bits of other table foods. He's figuring out how to use a sippy cup. He loves to drink water, and he can get a sippy cup into his mouth, but he can't figure out how to tip it back enough to drink.

Drum sippy cup instagram

We moved him up to a big boy car seat a couple weeks ago. He got Mo's old convertible seats, so Mo got two new seats. This time we bought a Graco seat that goes from a 5-point harness to a highback booster to a backless booster, so hopefully she won't need anymore seats. I can't believe we waited so long to transition Drum actually. When I referenced journals from Mo's babyhood, turns out we moved them at the exact same time, except Drum is several pounds and inches bigger than Mo was. He was too heavy to be lugging around in an infant carrier a long time ago, but he wasn't quite sturdy enough to not be in one. Now though, he can sit in a shopping cart, etc. so we ditched the carrier.

Mo Drum car seat instagram

 Mo on the left, Drum on the right.

Drum shopping cart

He also finally got a tooth. Sort of! He went through a couple weeks of grumpiness, which was a little tough because Mo was a pretty undramatic teether. Drum wasn't inconsolable, but he was persistently fussy and clearly uncomfortable. Finally a few days ago we felt a little tooth poking through. 

Drum loves stuffed animals just like Mo did and still does. Sometimes when we lay him down he'll momentarily get mad, but if we hand him a stuffed animal he immediately smiles and hugs it to himself. His favorite at the moment is a little monkey that we keep in his crib. His other comfort is rubbing his head. When he nurses, his little hand automatically goes up to his head where he either rubs his hair or just rests his hand. The other day I got him up in the morning, and he was still pretty sleepy so he stayed asleep in my arms. That never happens anymore - I can't get him to sleep in my arms if I try - so it was really sweet. It's funny how during those first few months he would ONLY sleep in my arms and it was exhausting. I knew it would change quickly and I'd miss having him snooze there, and sure enough, here we are. So those small moments where I get to hold my sleeping baby in my arms are very special. 

Drum sleeping crib

One of my favorite things is to watch the relationship between Mo and Drum. Drum is endlessly fascinated and entertained by her, and Mo is so sweet. She has never shown anything but love toward him. She snuggles him, kisses and hugs him, brings him toys, makes him laugh. Siblings are such a gift, and I'm so fortunate I was able to give them this special relationship, this lifelong friend!

Mo and Drum 2016

This has been a truly amazing month. I was reading about Mo at this age and it was the same thing. There must be something about this stage, it's magical and wonderful. I've been traveling a lot for work and I've missed out on some time with my babes, but I feel like our time together is all the more special. Drum has really bonded to me lately. He's always loved me, but for awhile I felt a little sad that I wasn't his favorite, that he didn't want me over anyone else the way Mo had. But in the last few weeks he's discovered that mom is the best ever. He gets excited to see me, upset if I don't grab him right away, sometimes even jealous if he wants me and I've got Mo already.

I love it. I love him. He's my Boo Bear!

Mom and Drum 2016


Mo's behavior chart

Some time ago, I wrote about how tough three has been for us and Mo. She was also having trouble at daycare and we were getting daily reports of her not listening well. I think maybe it was some kind of delayed reaction to Drum's appearance in her life, and she was seeking some attention. So on top of focusing on giving her positive attention whenever possible, I decided to implement a behavior chart. 

So far it has worked wonderfully, and I wanted to share!

I did a little Pinteresting and ended up creating a system that rewards her for good behavior and acknowledges bad behavior while giving her the chance to correct it. 

Mo behavior chart

Let me first say that the words are pretty pointless. I replicated something on Pinterest, but as soon as we started using it, we realized the flaw in the words. For instance, say she's up on blue, doing great, and she has a problem. We give her a warning and move her to the light orange "warning" status. Then does she have to do four good things to get back up to blue? We couldn't figure out the logistics of it, and we wanted to be consistent form the beginning so we just ignore the words and move her up and down one spot at a time. Good behavior = move up one. Poor behavior = move down one.

We start every day on yellow, and if she is on blue at bedtime, she gets to put three craft pompons in a jar. Once the jar is full, she gets a special prize. We've been through one round of jar-filling, and there were only a couple nights she went to bed without pompons.

Mo really responds to this system. When she is not listening well or making poor choices, I say something like "Do you want to move down to green?" and she immediately changes her behavior. If she doesn't, I move her down and she works hard to move back up. When she does something good, like listening the first time or making a good choice about behavior, I thank her and tell her she can move up a color. Now she'll even say, "Mommy, I was good! Can I be on blue?" And she'll frequently check the chart to see what color she's on. She's thrilled every night when she gets to pick three pompons to put in the jar.

Over the last couple weeks, as she was making progress, we asked her what she'd like her special prize to be when the jar was full. She chose a jump rope, and every time she added pompons, she smiled big and said she was so close to getting her jump rope. Last Friday she filled the jar for the first time, and the next day I took her to the store to pick out a jump rope and some candy (bonus prize!).


We emptied the jar and started over, and she's still responding just as well to this type of motivation. She has been getting great reports from daycare and has been so much more pleasant at home. I'm really proud of her! It may not work for every child because they're all wired differently, but if this might work for your child, give it a try.


My best parenting advice

I sat down to write something about how exhausting it is to have two kids and a demanding full-time job and how there's no time to do anything, but frankly, I'm exhausted and there's no time for writing deep thoughts.

But that made me think about how we overwhelmed mothers need to support each other, and so here is my advice to mothers (and fathers) everywhere. It's something I say over and over to myself and other parents:

You gotta do what you gotta do to survive.

It's different for everyone, and you have to do what works for you and your family. For your mental, emotional, and physical health. I consciously avoid the phrase "I'm such a bad mom" because there are some truly bad moms out there - moms who do terrible things to their children - and I'm not one of them. I'm a good mom and so are you, and we're doing a good job. Some days, some moments even, we're just trying to survive and that's OK. Do what you gotta do.

My other, super practical advice? No snaps on newborns.

Or at least as few as possible. Pass on any sleepers with snaps and go straight for the zippers because those little buggers pee and poop a lot and they're super wiggly, and you need easy access for diaper changes. Zippers are where it's at.

What's your best (practical or philosophical) advice for other parents? 


Monthly Drum Photo - Seven

At seven months, my boy is absolutely amazing. He is happy, alert, playful, fun, totally chill, easy going. I want to hold on to this stage forever. I want to put it in my pocket even as he grows and changes, and pull it out now and then. 

7 months

Drum, who goes by Bro at home about 85% of the time now, has become a strong sitter. I don't leave him sitting alone without a boppy because he does have a tendency to topple, and not very gracefully. Somehow he falls face first and one of these days he's going to smash his nose just right! He very recently started pushing up a bit when he's on his belly, but he still can't roll from tummy to back. And he only rolls back to tummy going left. 

7 month outtake

Drum shark hat

We introduced solids this month. The day he turned 6 months, we celebrated with some mashed bananas. He was a little unsure about the eating process at first, but quickly caught on. So far there isn't anything he hasn't liked. He's also had carrots, green beans, black beans, peas, avocado, watermelon, and a little taste of ice cream. He can also hold his own bottle, which was news to me. I never give him a bottle because I have boobs, but the other night he was still hungry after I had nothing left to offer, so I made him a small bottle. He grabbed it and put it to his mouth and blew me away. It makes sense he would be able to - he has really good dexterity - but suddenly he seemed really old to me. He tried his sister's sippy cup recently, too, but only played with it. He didn't figure out how to get any water from it.

Drum eating first time

He's become a great sleeper. He takes 2-3 naps a day, and sleeps about 10 hours at night, always on his tummy. He's become pretty noisy. No real babbling yet, but he sceeches and yells and giggles. He loves to suck on his bottom lip. He's wearing 12 month clothes. His hair is such a light blond that he looks bald. He sits in a high chair and loves his jumperoo. We put his activity mat away because that is so two months ago. And, in monumental milestones, we sold the exercise ball in a garage sale yesterday. I sat on that ball for seemingly endless hours during maternity leave and beyond because it was the only way he would sleep. I hated that ball. We don't need it anymore, and it felt so good to get rid of it.


Life is a bit overwhelming right now. I started a new job that has thrown our home life into a bit of a tizzy, and in general having two parents with full-time jobs and two young kids is hard. But it's also a wonderful time. I know I'll look back on this craziness fondly.


Edited to add:



Drum is still outpacing Mo in height and weight - she was smaller than him at every stage so far. But, as I said on Instagram, she had more hair and teeth than he does! Still no teeth for Bro.


Monthly Drum Photo - Six

Here's dearest Drum at six months:

6 months

6 months Mo and Drum

(Mo on left, Drum on the right. She was 3 pounds and 2.75 inches smaller.)

I was just reading about Mo at this age, and she apparently had this huge developmental leap right before the six month mark. Like, mere days before. She started rolling a lot more efficiently, sitting up more, and pushing her chest off the ground. Drum can roll wonderfully from his back to his left side to his belly, but that's about it. He can't get onto his back and though he can roll to his right side, he can't get all the way over. He did figure out how to sit recently - like one day BAM! he could sit. He is not pushing up though. But I do a developmental assessment every couple months, and he's doing great overall and especially well in other areas like problem solving and fine motor skills.

Drum sitting instagram

Sorry to compare you to your sister so much Drum! But apparently Mo also had two teeth at this age while Drum has no signs of any. He also has less hair! But he is quite a bit large.

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Drum is wearing 12 month sleepers, and it has been fun comparing him to Mo when she wore the same ones. She was standing, crawling, walking. He is mostly laying. 

Mo Drum comparison pajamas instagram

Sleep is still OK. He naps in his crib and usually goes down with only a little effort. Sometimes he has to fuss awhile before dozing off. At night, he is also in his crib and nearly always goes down with no effort. He likes to look at things so we put a balloon near his crib for awhile, then his light up star (which was booted from his car seat for something more interactive). We also put a couple non-suffocating toys in there for him to tinker with, or give him a small board book to hold. But he still wakes up at least once a night, usually around 1:30. One night he slept 11 hours and it was like angels singing from heaven. I can't wait until he does that regularly.

Drum in swing

Other than variations of Drum and Brother, my most common name for him is Nugget Bugget Boo Boo (or Nugget Boo Boo, Nuggest, Boo Boo, Buggy Boo, Boo...). 


 On his six month birthday, we let him try some mashed bananas. He has been really interested in watching us eat, trying to grab for our food and watching intently as we take bites. Plus he has been eating a lot lately! My appetite has been out of control because he is nursing so much, and I am pumping so much to keep up with his daycare bottles. Obviously he's growing like crazy and I think food will be a nice chaser for his milk! He didn't exactly gobble up the bananas, but he didn't hate them either. We've been too busy and chaotic to try again in the last few days, but I can't wait to see what he thinks about all the other yummy things we're going to feed him!


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