Time for a daycare update. It has been almost three months since I wrote about the food issue (here and here). Daycare has been a series of ups and downs. First we thought we only needed part-time daycare, and then found out we needed full-time daycare due to a family issue, which was a huge emotional adjustment. Then we spent a lot of time and energy finding the right daycare. Then we settled on one, and when Mo was four months old we took her to visit, and I panicked. Then a couple weeks later, we sent her off and it was hard. And then we spent a couple months working through lots of kinks, like getting them to keep her on a routine and understanding why she had a blow out nearly every day. And when we finally worked through most of that, it was time to give her food, and yeah, see the links above.
At that time, we were considering whether we needed to find a new child care situation altogether. We didn't like that state regulations were telling us how to feed our child and over ruling what we wanted to do as parents. Maybe we needed to get out of a state licensed daycare. And that's pretty much where we left off.
So where are we now? We're still at the same place. We put lots of feelers out again after the food situation, but there was only one bite. A colleague of Mike's has a baby a couple months younger than Mo, and his wife was looking for a way to stay home full-time with her son. We tossed around the idea of her watching Mo too. So we had them over for dinner to see if there was something there. And then a few days later, lo and behold, the colleague's mother decided to retire and offered to stay home with their baby, meaning they no longer needed the income from watching Mo. Oh how convenient for them!
And we've never gotten another lead since.
So we're still at the same place, and it has been OK. We got Mo to eat purees, and now she is hardly interested in anything else, which irks me because we're ready for her to eat table food and she only really wants purees even though she loved table food before the purees and whatever, it's not a big deal. Only it's daycare's fault because they made us give her purees! But it's fine, and she does well at daycare. She eats well there, she sleeps well, she plays with all her friends. She's no longer the littlest there and she's quickly becoming one of the "big kids."
Part of me still hopes maybe someday the right alternative will present itself. Maybe a grandparent will retire and agree to watch her a couple days a week. Or maybe a friend (or friend of a friend even) will want to stay home and will be interested in watching Mo full-time, or even part-time. Or maybe a miracle will occur and we'll be able to afford for me to work part-time, and I can stay home with her a couple days a week.
But in the meantime, I focus on the positive aspects of daycare. And I accept that this is our situation. We don't always get the ideal situation in life right? And if she has to be in daycare full-time, I'm glad we've worked out some issues and have come to like the place we bring her every day.