Drum has turned a bit of a corner in the last month. We're starting to see glimmers of who he is and who he will be instead of just seeing a helpless, fussy baby. We've still been dealing with some minor gas issues, and he got sick for awhile, and he went through a sleep regression, but overall he's been happier, sweeter and more interactive.
Drum's smiles are big and bountiful, but his laughs are hard won. I think he's still figuring out how to do it, and when it happens, it's wonderful. He has been grabbing things like crazy - if anything comes near his hands, he can't help but grab on and usually pull it to his mouth. He loves to sit up. It's a bit frustrating for him because he can't actually hold himself up, but he hates to be reclined. Even in his car seat, he spends the whole time struggling against gravity and a 5-point harness to sit up. He also likes to stand with our help.
He's been exploring textures lately, scratching his hands on anything around him. One day he spent 15 minutes playing with the tortilla chip bag I was trying to eat from! We finally got to get him outside for more than a walk to or from the car. The weather has been volleying between spring and winter, and when it got warm a couple times, we took the kids for walks outside. November babies are tough, they're born right at the beginning of winter, so Drum has spent his entire life stuck inside. I can't wait for him to breathe fresh air, to feel grass under his feet, to feel sun on his skin!
Drum has been doing better at daycare. He still doesn't eat as much as he does at home, and he takes short naps. But he's eating and napping, so that's something. The big difference is that he's not super fussy all day. And the other kids love him. They line up to hold him when he arrives in the morning.
Mo has been taking quite an interest in him lately. As I predicted, when he started to notice her and smile and laugh at her antics, she ate it up. She loves to give him hugs and kisses, to bring him toys, to play on his activity mat with him. She is proud to be his sister, and he is starting to be very entertained by her. I'm excited to wait their relationship grow. Mo calls him Bro, Brother, Baby Bro, Baby Brother. Only sometimes by his actual name. And as a result, we all call him Bro. Even when not referring to him in relation to Mo, we find ourselves calling him Bro like it's his name.
We recently moved him out of the rock n play at night, mostly because he was getting to big for it, but also as a way to start a transition to his crib. I don't really want to move him out of our room until he is sleeping 10-12 hours, but it was time to get him out of the rock n play. First we put him in a snuggle nest inside the cosleeper and inclined the mattress a bit. Then we moved it down flat, and finally removed the next. He's now sleeping flat in the cosleeper. Most nights we try to put him down in his crib first, and he sleeps there 1-3 hours before he wants to eat, and then we move him to the cosleeper. We were still swaddling him until a couple nights ago, but he kept getting his arms out and waking himself up, so we're now trying a Baby Merlin's Magic Sleepsuit. So far it has been good.
Here's the thing about his sleep patterns. He's a completely normal baby when it comes to sleep, and in fact, he does pretty good. He was sleeping 4-6 hour stretches early on, and for a long time I was only getting up once a night. He's been going through a sleep regression and waking up closer to every 3 hours, but still, tolerable. But we were so spoiled with Mo that we're still find it frustrating! Mo was tough for about 10 weeks, then we focused on getting her on a daytime schedule and bam, she started sleeping 10-12 hours a night consistently. And she's been amazing ever since. We tried the schedule thing with Drum and he didn't respond in the same way, and now we're at a loss. And we don't need to sleep train him because he's really quite normal, but we can't help but hope something will click soon because we'd really love more than 2-3 hours of sleep at a time.
And finally, an update on his health. At the beginning of the month, Drum had some major digestion issues still. He was gassy and grumpy and he was only pooping once a week. I finally took him in because life for a baby really shouldn't be that miserable, but they assured me everything was fine. Not what I was hoping to hear. I decided to cut down on dairy, and it did seem to make a difference. But I've been eating dairy again and he still seems fine, so I think his system is just maturing finally. And then he got sick. He had a really bad cough and vomited a few times. We kept him home for three days, which happened to coincide with when I got a terrible stomach bug, Mike got a horrible cold, and Mo puked. It was not a great week.
To end this on a happy note, Drum is wonderful. And beautiful!