Monday
Nov162009
I'm that loner girl on the playground begging you to play with me
Monday, November 16, 2009 at 07:54AM
We're having trouble generating conversation and feedback at our wedding blog. And it's frustrating. I can see that people are reading, but I guess they don't have much to say. We really do want to hear from other people, which is why we often ask for feedback or comments or ideas, but we don't actually get very many.
Maybe it's vain of me to think that people care enough about our silly wedding to take the time to comment, or maybe our blog is just boring and we're oblivious because it's so damn interesting to us (it's our wedding, so duh). Yet people are reading. The stats tell me so. When we write a new Shan & Mike post, and especially when I link to one on facebook or twitter or here, I can see that people are going there and spending enough time to read. Yet the comments are few and far between.
It's hard to write in a vacuum, which is why I'm so thankful for the little internet support group I've accumulated through this blog. And I know that Shan & Mike is new and it's a very narrow topic, but we're tackling more than just the details of wedding flowers and favors. We hit on some pretty meaty topics yo! Like marriage equality and patriarchal traditions.
While, yes, I'm hoping this will inspire you to take pity on us and visit our site and leave comments, mostly I'm just ranting.
You know what, let's just cut the bullshit here. What I really want to know is... how come nobody wants to play with me? Do I smell? Am I wearing the wrong clothes? Did you hear rumors that I like to eat worms? What? What is it!
Maybe it's vain of me to think that people care enough about our silly wedding to take the time to comment, or maybe our blog is just boring and we're oblivious because it's so damn interesting to us (it's our wedding, so duh). Yet people are reading. The stats tell me so. When we write a new Shan & Mike post, and especially when I link to one on facebook or twitter or here, I can see that people are going there and spending enough time to read. Yet the comments are few and far between.
It's hard to write in a vacuum, which is why I'm so thankful for the little internet support group I've accumulated through this blog. And I know that Shan & Mike is new and it's a very narrow topic, but we're tackling more than just the details of wedding flowers and favors. We hit on some pretty meaty topics yo! Like marriage equality and patriarchal traditions.
While, yes, I'm hoping this will inspire you to take pity on us and visit our site and leave comments, mostly I'm just ranting.
You know what, let's just cut the bullshit here. What I really want to know is... how come nobody wants to play with me? Do I smell? Am I wearing the wrong clothes? Did you hear rumors that I like to eat worms? What? What is it!
Reader Comments (13)
Okay, okay.. I'll speak up..
I enjoy reading the posts about YOUR plans -- seeing your dress, hearing how you're making decisions, etc etc. I don't have any experience to relay, for the most part, but I love butting in when I can and offering up suggestions and ideas. I'm thrilled to have another blog to read and I've enjoyed it very much!
On the other hand, I haven't gotten much out of the "Wedding Traditions Explained" posts. Maybe if you offered some tidbits at the end on whether or how you plan to incorporate those traditions, it'd leave more room for commentary. But as it stands it reads a bit like a wiki article and doesn't seem to incite much feedback.
But either way, I love you and your blogs, so don't stop!
Thanks Lindsay. You're right, the Wedding Traditions posts aren't really meant to elicit feedback, they're just informational. Mostly because I like to know the history of traditions, so I thought others might too.
I've noticed that you leave comments on other things though, and I appreciate it!
I enjoy reading them, but would love to hear, for example, if YOU plan to use any special or significant flower, or what YOUR "something borrowed, etc" might be. :)
Good point. Really though, we're not incorporating most of the traditions at all. However, maybe once all the explanations are posted, I'll do a recap of which we're using/not using, how we're altering them, etc. Thanks for the tip!
I understand the frustration of not getting any feedback - especially, if you do see that people come and read your posts!
I'll try and make an effort to comment on your wedding blog as well.
You know, I think this happens every year in November. Everyone who is participating in Nablopomo gets so caught up in the daily updating of their own blogs, and they forget to read and comment on everyone else's blogs. Maybe? I can't use that excuse, though, as I'm not doing Nablopomo. I'm just a shitty commenter, even though I'm almost always reading. I'll try to be better! :)
I enjoy so much reading about how you are making plans and all the details like the dress and dress shopping with your sister. For me, it gives me a sense of being there and being close when I can't be.
I haven't commented much recently. In part because I know we have different viewpoints on the "meaty topics" and traditions so why stir up dust when this is your special occasion and a happy one at that. You know I love you and will honor you and your views and opinions. I give feedback when I feel I have something to offer.
I haven't read all of the posts on your wedding blog but have enjoyed what I've read. I think I tend to back off on inserting opinion when it comes to someone else's wedding plans because it can be a sensitive topic. Believe me - I have inserted my foot in my mouth plenty of times to finally learn I should just stop chatting about weddings.
Plus I heard you smell. :-)
I forgot to put it in my reader :-/ so I'd never seen it. I'll catch up now!
I've been reading but try not to insert my opinion on wedding stuff for a variety of reasons such as I'm not married nor have I ever so what do I know and weddings are these grand complicated affairs that produce too much stress.
Besides that, you have a chicken to adopt...please visit my blog! Ha...that's probably the funniest phrase I've written all month!
I'll be your friend! I feel sort of like a stalker sometimes, though. I've been off the internets for a few days, but I'm back.
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I'm reading and commenting. I enjoy your wedding blog but you don't respond back much so I just thought my comments were going into a vacuum. *shrugs*