Sunday
Nov232008
One friend in common
Sunday, November 23, 2008 at 11:22AM
Could my dating life get any more strange?
I went out with this guy (from match) for the first time last night, and one of the first things we discovered was that he grew up in the town I lived in for three years and just moved away from last year. He hasn't lived there himself for several years, but he did go to high school there. Same high school as Brad.
So of course somehow it comes out that I have an ex-boyfriend from that town, and oh hey, maybe he (my date) knows him (Brad). I refused to tell him the name at first because how awkward right? But after a few hours of talking, I thought it would be fine to tell him Brad's first name. That's it. It was a pretty big school, they weren't in the same grade - what are the chances "Brad" is going to be any kind of helpful hint at all?
As soon as I said it though, he gave me a look and asked me if Brad's last name started with a certain letter. The exact letter that Brad's last name starts with. Still though, there are a lot of people with that last initial, no way it's the same guy. Oh no, it's the same guy. MY FUCKING DATE KNOWS MY FUCKING EX-BOYFRIEND! What the hell, what are the chances of that happening? And not just knows him like saw him in the hall once or twice, they both participated in the same activity in school and so he knew him quite well. Oh and guess what. They're friends on facebook. Like, have written on each others' walls friends on facebook.
What do you even do with that kind of information? I mean when the topic of exes comes up it's kind of weird anyway, but at least they're just these abstract people in your mind. He told me a little about his last girlfriend, but I don't know her name or what she looks like or what she acts like. Nothing. But he knows my ex's name and face and personality.
We actually talked about it for awhile so I could process the whole idea, move on and enjoy the rest of the night. But still, it's weird. That's weird right?
I went out with this guy (from match) for the first time last night, and one of the first things we discovered was that he grew up in the town I lived in for three years and just moved away from last year. He hasn't lived there himself for several years, but he did go to high school there. Same high school as Brad.
So of course somehow it comes out that I have an ex-boyfriend from that town, and oh hey, maybe he (my date) knows him (Brad). I refused to tell him the name at first because how awkward right? But after a few hours of talking, I thought it would be fine to tell him Brad's first name. That's it. It was a pretty big school, they weren't in the same grade - what are the chances "Brad" is going to be any kind of helpful hint at all?
As soon as I said it though, he gave me a look and asked me if Brad's last name started with a certain letter. The exact letter that Brad's last name starts with. Still though, there are a lot of people with that last initial, no way it's the same guy. Oh no, it's the same guy. MY FUCKING DATE KNOWS MY FUCKING EX-BOYFRIEND! What the hell, what are the chances of that happening? And not just knows him like saw him in the hall once or twice, they both participated in the same activity in school and so he knew him quite well. Oh and guess what. They're friends on facebook. Like, have written on each others' walls friends on facebook.
What do you even do with that kind of information? I mean when the topic of exes comes up it's kind of weird anyway, but at least they're just these abstract people in your mind. He told me a little about his last girlfriend, but I don't know her name or what she looks like or what she acts like. Nothing. But he knows my ex's name and face and personality.
We actually talked about it for awhile so I could process the whole idea, move on and enjoy the rest of the night. But still, it's weird. That's weird right?
Reader Comments (7)
It's a little weird. I've actually become friends my recent BF's ex. Very weird actually. I talk to her more than he does. The whole Ex thing is always messed up.
Yes. But it's just a small world. Further justification for being very nice to everyone.
That is surprising...and yeah, a little awkward when you're on a date. But now the curiosity is satisfied, and hopefully you can both move on to more dates!This match thing is turning out to be very interesting, at the least, no?
That's totally wierd and not weird at all. What with social media, we basically all know everyone. Like I think I'm related to Cher now just because of twitter.
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Crazy! Sometimes I hate how small the world can be.
i don't know, i'm married to my ex-husband's previous best friend (note: we got together long after the divorce and um my husband witness my wedding to him) ... so on the scale of weirdness, this doesn't seem so weird. hahaha. but yeah, its kind of weird.
I think it's more unexpected than strange, but still, a little unnerving to be sure. At least, I would be unnerved, and a little annoyed. It's fun to think you can move and leave everything you want to behind, but really, you carry everything with you to a certain extent. Like baggage, only in the deep brooding metaphorical sense rather than actual suitcases. Heh.